Roommate Hell·
THE BABY SHOWER STANDOFF
Two roommates wrestle over space when a pregnant roommate announces a baby shower, forcing a blunt boundary talk about who stays, who leaves, and what home means.
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A roommate's pregnancy turned into a housing standoff the moment she started talking baby shower.
The poster, in their mid-twenties and still in university, lives with a roommate who works from home doing programming. The arrangement had barely settled in, the roommate moved in just four months ago, when the news dropped: she was pregnant from a party and did not know who the father was.
That much alone was enough to complicate the apartment. But the real friction came from what happened next.
The roommate reportedly had not suggested moving out. Instead, she started talking about planning a baby shower in the apartment.
That detail landed hard for the poster, who said they had been in the apartment first and could not see why they should be the one to leave. In their telling, the timeline mattered: they lived there before the roommate moved in, and now the place they shared was suddenly becoming the site of a pregnancy celebration, with, eventually, a newborn in the mix.
The poster spelled out the problem plainly: they did not want to live with a baby.
What they did not know was how to say that without sounding cruel.
"Anyways I really don't wanna live with a baby but it's kinda mean to just tell her to move out right?" the poster wrote, asking whether it would be out of line to tell the roommate to leave.
In an edit, the poster added more details about the lease. They clarified that they were on it, and that the roommate paid her share of the rent and utilities every month. They also pushed back on the idea that this was a simple eviction threat.
"obviously I'm not gonna throw my roommate out on the curb??" they wrote.
Instead, the plan was to be direct about the living situation without turning it into an immediate boot. The poster said they would tell the roommate they were not comfortable living with a newborn and would gladly help her find a new place.
And if that search dragged on too long?
The poster made that part clear too: if the roommate could not find somewhere else before the baby was born, they still would not kick her out.
"I'm not a monster," they wrote.