Entitled People·
NO SHARED ROOMS
A woman organizing a girls' trip refuses to rearrange room allocations to accommodate a friend, sparking tension as the group weighs space, autonomy, and loyalty.
Keep the room plan or make room for her?
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Diane's invitation landed after the vacation was already booked, paid for, and split into private rooms, and the answer was no.
The whole thing started with a reset. Everyone involved was in their early 40s, and the narrator had recently gone through a rough divorce. "I recently got divorced and it has been very rough going," she said. Therapy helped, she got back to the gym, reconnected with friends, and, in her words, got off of her "rusty-dusty" and started feeling like herself again. "I feel good again."
Part of that comeback was travel. She and her ex had always vacationed together, so she decided to start taking trips again with friends. She asked five women to go on a getaway. Three said yes. Diane said no at first, because she already had other vacations planned and limited time.
So the narrator did the work. She researched a four-bedroom Airbnb and booked it so that everyone would have their own room. She and one friend got the two master rooms, each with one bed. The other two friends got the two double rooms, each with two separate beds. Flights were booked. The trip was a month away. "Everyone will have their own room," she wrote.
Then the weekend rolled around, and Diane called with a change of heart. One of her other trips had fallen through, and now she had time to join. The narrator told her she could look for another place nearby, or a hotel close to the group.
Diane pushed back. Why couldn't she stay with them? Could the narrator switch rooms and let Diane share a double room? The narrator said no. "I didn't want to."
Her reason was simple: she wanted her own space. She had just spent 12 years sharing a room with her ex, and she had happily adjusted to being alone. The other women felt the same way. "I'm a grown ass woman who needs her space," she said.
Diane didn't stop there. She contacted the other friends going on the trip and asked if one of them would share with her instead. They all said no. They told her to book her own Airbnb or hotel near them so they could still hang out.
The narrator added that all of them are professional women who make good money, so money wasn't the issue. Diane often travels solo because she doesn't want to negotiate with anyone, and on the trip that fell through, she had her own room too.
Now Diane isn't speaking to any of them. The narrator says she feels bad, just not as bad as she thinks she should. "AITA for not accommodating her?" she asked.