Family Feuds·
KNIFE WAR AT HOME
A couple's kitchen knife dispute over dishwasher rules escalates from nagging chores to a bitter standoff over ownership and shared property.
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A $170 fillet knife ended up at the bottom of the sink, buried under a heavy pot, and that was apparently the last straw.
For years, the poster says, there had been a running battle over a "very nice kitchen knife set" they had spent quite a bit on. When they bought it, they laid down a few simple rules: "dont put them in the dishwasher, dont soak them/leave them at the bottom of the sink, and dont put them in the butcher block wet."
That part, at least, seemed straightforward. The poster said they did not even mind if a knife got used and left by the sink for later washing. The problem was what happened after the cooking was done. The wife, they said, had a habit of soaking anything that looked remotely dirty. The poster described it as a long-standing source of frustration, especially because they were the one who usually ended up caring for and washing the knives anyway.
"She insists shes helping," the poster said, but the help kept coming with a side of damage.
Then came the fillet knife.
According to the poster, the knife was broken after being left soaking in the sink under a heavy pot. Replacing it would cost about $170. That was when the poster decided to stop trying to manage the shared set the old way.
"My solution was to buy her her own set that she could use however she wanted and destroy in the dishwasher without losing anything special," the poster wrote.
In other words: if the wife wanted to treat knives like disposable tools, she could do it with her own knives.
That did not settle the matter. Instead, it sparked a new dispute. The poster said they no longer wanted to share the nicer knives at all, and were told that the wife would use whatever knife she needed if she was cooking. The poster said they were generally pretty chill and did not argue much, but this time the disagreement had stuck.
"I dont want to share anymore," the poster said.
Now the issue is not whether the knives should be washed carefully. It is whether the wife can still reach for the poster's knives at all. And after the broken fillet knife, the answer from the poster is no, even if the wife thinks otherwise.