Dating Disasters·
GROSSED OUT IN BED
A couple's hot night sours when one partner is grossed out by vaginal discharge, prompting a blunt anatomy lesson and a heated debate about arousal and sex education.
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A sex session stopped dead when a 20-year-old boyfriend looked down, went soft, and told his 21-year-old partner he was "grossed out" by the amount of discharge on him.
The couple had been having sex as usual when the poster says they were especially aroused and therefore very wet. During the encounter, the boyfriend noticed what the poster described as natural lubricant from the vagina on his penis. His reaction was immediate: he lost his erection and stopped.
The poster asked the question that changed the whole mood: was he grossed out?
"Yes, a little actually," he answered.
That landed hard. The poster pushed back, saying it was normal and that they were just super turned on. The boyfriend replied, "I don't think that's what it means."
That only made the poster angrier. They said they know their own vagina best and felt dismissed in a moment that was already humiliating. In their telling, the boyfriend later tried to minimize it, saying it wasn't a big deal. But the damage was done. The poster said they felt offended and worried he was disgusted by their vagina.
The situation came to Reddit as a blunt relationship question: AITAH for being mad at my bf after he got grossed out by me during sex?
In an edit, the poster clarified that their boyfriend is not gay. They also said the two of them talked it through afterward. During that conversation, the boyfriend admitted he was not very educated on vaginas and had been shocked at how "aroused I was." According to the poster, he learned that women can have different kinds of discharge and arousal fluid.
The poster added that both of them are still young.
What began as a routine hookup turned into an awkward, blunt anatomy lesson in the middle of the bedroom, with one partner feeling rejected and the other apparently blindsided by something the poster considered completely normal.