Money & Inheritance·
THE WILL FEUD
A terminally ill father faces a family rift when his estranged daughter demands a share of his will, challenging decades of distance and loyalty.
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He was dying, his oldest daughter had not spoken to him in years, and the first thing she wanted was his will.
The poster says he is in his late 60s and dealing with a terminal disease, he writes "terminal dieses", after already having poor health for years. He has four children and six grandchildren, but says he only knows two of the little kids. The family split started long before the diagnosis.
His oldest daughter is from a previous relationship. The rest of his children are with his wife. According to him, the daughter's mother "always put lies in her head about me" and tried to push him out of the relationship. He says his daughter repeatedly told him that "her step-dad was her actual dad." Over time, he says, he gave up fighting for the connection.
"I just stopped trying," he says. Instead, he focused on the children he says "actually love and care about me," and got used to the distance. He and his oldest daughter "used to have very low contact," and then things got worse. He says he was not invited to her wedding, and after that, "there was no contact between us whatsoever."
Then, last week, she called.
Not to ask how he was doing. Not to check on the illness. He says she called "not to check up on me but ask about my will."
That was the conversation that reopened everything. According to the poster, his daughter argued that because he had been "an absent and horrible dad" to her, she and her children deserve more from his will than his other children. She also pointed to the fact that they were there for him after he got sick, saying "they were always there especially after I got sick."
He did not agree.
He told her that she and her kids are not getting anything from him because she "clearly didn't need or want me." He says he made it plain that his other children would be the ones receiving what he leaves behind. His daughter did not take that calmly. He says she "went off on me," and now his ex is backing her up, insisting that "she was always right about me."
The poster ends by asking whether he is wrong for refusing to leave anything to the daughter and her children after they cut him off. He frames the question another way too: "why should my kids have to share what I earned with my hard work with someone who actively hated me?"