Breakups·
BAD AT EVERYTHING
A girlfriend details a yearlong romance strained by constant losses, ego clashes, and drifting future plans, building toward a dramatic moment that tests trust and respect.
Was it the losses, or how he handled them?
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At a tabletop game, Steve lost again, and this time, the argument that followed helped end a year-long relationship.
The post began with a blunt title: "My [23F] boyfriend [23M] of 1 year is bad at everything and it's making me lose respect for him." The poster said Steve was actually good at a few things: outdoorsy stuff, and his catering job. But outside of that, she felt he seemed terrible at nearly everything, especially anything involving skill, rules, or competition.
The pattern showed up over and over. He would lose at Scrabble, Sorry, air hockey, and foosball, then get upset and blame the game instead of the result. He didn't just shrug it off. He got angry, complained about the rules, and treated the loss like the game itself had cheated him.
The same thing happened with practical tasks. When he needed a router manual, he downloaded the wrong one. Then he got mad about how hard the instructions were. She also mentioned watching him struggle with logarithms while he was preparing for master's prerequisites. Each time, the frustration seemed to build, and she admitted it was making her lose respect for him.
Still, the picture wasn't simple. She said he was sweet, hardworking, and well-liked at work. He had done well in high school. That left her stuck between irritation and guilt, wondering whether she was being unfair, and whether the problem was actually her.
Then came the update.
She opened it with a blunt line: "I'll save you some scrolling: we broke up."
According to the follow-up, Steve had a biomedicine degree and talked about wanting a PhD and a professorship. He was also taking units toward a master's program. But she said his story started feeling inconsistent, especially as he became evasive about his degree and future plans.
She tried to bring it up calmly. She told him about his constant negativity and suggested therapy. He reacted badly. He accused her of not caring, and said psychologists only want to make people "think like everyone else." When she pushed back, he reportedly snapped, "It doesn't matter, they still just want to convince you it's fine to be a loser and everything's ok with you."
By then, she said, her suspicions were growing.
The final break came on a sailing trip. The two of them struggled to turn the boat, and he got upset. After that argument, she ended it two days later. In her words: "YOU'RE DUMPED."
Looking back, she wrote, "There's something wrong with ME and I need to seriously analyze my partner choices."