PEANUT PLAN ENDS

A third date died on the phone after a woman said her peanut allergy was "life-threatening."

A friend had set the poster up with a coworker and told them they were "perfect for each other." The first date was a coffee shop meet-up. The second came the next week at a botanical garden. That's where the conversation turned to something more serious: the woman mentioned she had a peanut allergy, and not just a mild one. It was, she said, life-threatening.

The poster replied that it "must be stressful." She agreed that it was.

By the end of the garden date, the two had already planned a lunch date for later that week. But afterward, the poster says they kept thinking about their own life with peanuts. They love peanuts. They eat them all the time. Peanut butter goes in and on a lot of their food. They even put peanut butter in their dog's toys and believed that peanut oil gets spread around their apartment.

That led to a problem the poster couldn't ignore. They decided they could not see the relationship becoming serious unless they changed their diet and habits. Since it had only been two dates and they wanted to be respectful of the woman's time, they called to cancel the third one.

On the phone, the woman asked whether they wanted to reschedule. The poster said they did not think it would work out long term. When she asked why, the poster explained that they really like peanuts and would be nervous about potentially harming her.

She said there were "a lot of safety precautions" they could take.

The poster said they knew that, but did not want to do them.

The response was immediate: "wow." She called them "immature" and hung up.

The story didn't end there. She later told the poster's friend, who was reportedly confused by the reasoning. The coworker also called the poster "a massive douche."

The poster says they don't feel like one. In their view, "Two dates doesn't imply any commitment." They asked the friend if she agreed. She wasn't sure, but said the logic was "definitely weird."