THE HEAT AT HOME

At 37 weeks pregnant, with a planned C-section due at the end of the week and complications hanging over the baby, one woman found herself battling something far less medical but just as exhausting: her husband's parents were too cold, and her house was getting hotter by the day.

The poster said her husband's parents had traveled halfway across the world to stay with them and help when the newborn arrived. She noted that they are nice people and that she generally likes them. Her husband, too, had been "generally supportive throughout my pregnancy and the complications we've had with the baby." But since the in-laws moved in, she says the arrangement has become lopsided fast.

She's been cooking for four instead of two and cleaning up after everyone, though she says that isn't even the main problem. The real issue is the temperature. It is autumn turning into winter where they live, and she had warned them before they came that "it will be cold." The house stays at 20C, but that is still not enough for her husband's parents. The mother-in-law, she says, "complains about the cold at least 5 times a day." The poster, meanwhile, says pregnancy has left her running hot, and 20C is already borderline too warm for her. She asked them to wear extra layers. The mother-in-law refused, until yesterday.

Last night, the parents went to visit relatives without her because she was too tired. The mother-in-law complained to her son about being cold, and when he got home he turned the heater up. The poster warned him it would become too hot for her overnight, but he left it on anyway. He did turn it off before sleeping, yet it was still enough to leave her sweating. She said she "sweated through my clothes and bedclothes."

The temperature fight sits inside a bigger one. She says she has told him, "we shouldn't have outside visitors till the baby gets his vaccinations," and that "no one should be allowed to kiss him on the face." Because the baby has complications, she wants every possible precaution in place. Her husband pushed back, saying that "if someone was sick they would let us know and only that person could be excluded." He also argued when she said the midwives insisted "the baby should be sleeping in a room no warmer than 20C," replying that "the kids in the tropics sleep in warmer rooms."

Then his mother brought up an old tradition for the baby on the 28th day. He had previously opposed it, but this time he softened, saying "if she does it, it won't hurt anybody and it'll make her happy." The poster says that if they don't set boundaries now, more and more of these traditions will follow.

"I don't feel like he's on my team," she wrote. "I'm being forced to do all the adjusting while he looks after his parents comfort." Her husband says she should "just adjust for a while till they can adjust to being here." She ended by asking: "Am I overreacting here? AITA?"