Dating Disasters·
THE VEGGIE LASAGNA FEUD
A French immigrant's health crisis from American food prompts a diet shift, triggering a clash with her boyfriend over meals and control in a modern relationship.
Was she cooking, or forcing her diet?
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The first clue that something was wrong was not a bill, a breakup, or a fight, it was food making a new arrival in the United States violently sick.
The poster, originally from France, had moved to America almost two years earlier and expected the usual culture shock. Instead, meals started turning into a problem. Whether it was takeout or something from a fancy restaurant, they say the result was the same: days unable to go to the bathroom, or else vomiting hard enough to make eating feel like a gamble. For months, they tried to push through it. The sickness kept coming, and the weight started dropping fast.
That turned into a serious alarm. The poster said their family urged them to see a specialist, and they did. Doctors ran multiple tests. Nothing physically wrong showed up.
Then a dietitian offered a possible explanation: the poster's body may not have been used to the amount of salt and preservatives in food in the States. The suggestion was simple enough, fresh and organic produce.
So the poster changed how they ate.
The difference was immediate. The vomiting stopped. The weight slowly began to come back. The poster started cooking from scratch, meal prepping, and leaning on recipes their father, a chef back home, sent over to keep things interesting. They described the new routine as working. "I love it here and it's a great country," they wrote, but their body had clearly needed a different approach.
Then came the night the issue finally reached the kitchen table.
The poster made a vegetarian lasagna from scratch. When their American boyfriend came home and asked what was for dinner, the answer was simple: veggie lasagna. His response was not.
"Ew, that's gross," he said, according to the post, adding that he was sick of "that organic crap" and wanted a cheeseburger instead.
The poster said they didn't even have burger buns.
"I couldn't make one because I didn't even have any burger buns," they wrote.
That apparently made the boyfriend push harder. He said it was unfair to "make" him eat the poster's diet.
The poster says that comment caught them off guard. They had not realized he saw it that way, and they apologized, saying they did not mean to force anything on him. Until that moment, they thought he was simply eating the meals they made and had no problem with the new routine.
Now the question hanging over the post was simple: had they been forcing their diet on him, or had they just been cooking dinner?