Dating Disasters·
SOAPLESS SHOWER SECRET
A 20-year-old woman discovers her new boyfriend showers with water only, scrubs with a loofah, and saves soap for rare occasions, leaving her shocked and unsure what to do.
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She'd barely been dating him a month when her boyfriend casually admitted he showers without soap.
The poster, 20, had been talking about bathing in the kind of way people do when they're still learning each other's routines. She said that "while getting clean is obviously the priority, showering is more ritualistic for me and I like how the hot water feels." It was meant to be a simple, offhand conversation about preferences.
Her 22-year-old boyfriend agreed with the hot-water part. Then he kept going.
According to the poster, he said he doesn't usually wash his body with soap when he gets into the shower and "kind of just lets it run over him." He does, however, make a point to wash his hair.
The poster said the revelation hit fast. "I was internally shocked. Appalled if you will." She stayed calm on the outside, but immediately asked the obvious follow-up: "how does he get all the dead skin and bacteria off of him if he doesn't use soap or body wash"
His answer was simple. He said he uses a loofah and scrubs.
With water.
That was the part that really landed. He wasn't saying he skips showers altogether. He showers. He just does not usually use soap on his body. The shower, for him, is more rinse than wash, hair shampooed, body scrubbed with a loofah, and mostly left to water.
Then came the final detail: he does use body wash sometimes, but only for special occasions. As the poster relayed it, he said that on those occasions he'll use body wash if he wants to "spell particularly nice."
By then, she says she was already grossed out.
The whole exchange left her unsure what to do with the information, or with the boyfriend himself. She summed it up plainly: "I genuinely don't know how to handle this, I'm a little bit grossed out."
What began as a casual chat about shower habits turned into a very specific surprise: a new boyfriend who mostly showers with water, washes his hair, scrubs his body with a loofah, and treats soap like it belongs to rare, special events.