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A paternity test detonated a five-year marriage the moment a pregnant husband asked for it "for no reason."

The man, 35, said he had met his wife, 29, through a mutual friend. They were friends for about a year, dated for two more, and then got married. For the most part, he described the relationship as steady. She had always been faithful, kept him updated on where she was, and had never cheated on him or any exes.

Then she got pregnant, and he started spiraling over "statistics about how many men are raising children that aren't their own." Around three months into the pregnancy, he told her he wanted a paternity test.

She stopped him cold: was he accusing her of cheating?

He said yes.

He also admitted he could not explain why. "I do not know what got into me," he later wrote. Still, he wanted the test. His wife agreed, but she moved back in with her mother until it could be done.

At about 20 weeks, she got an amniocentesis. The result came back clear: he was the father.

That did not save the marriage.

She told him she had "fell out of love" with him the minute he asked, and she did not want to reconcile. Their daughter was born on July 10, and the wife started divorce and custody proceedings. She got her own apartment and said she wanted things to be "as amicable" as possible for the baby. She also said she did not want support or alimony because she made enough to take care of herself and the child.

The next day, he posted an update with her side of the rupture. She said this was not a one-time mistake. He had a pattern of not trusting her, she said, including snooping through her phone, email, and work laptop. She believed he was projecting, especially because he had Tinder installed and had been on OKCupid six months earlier.

She also said he had been cold before the paternity test, refused to help pay for the amniocentesis co-pay, and went on dates after she moved out. In her view, that counted as cheating because they were still trying to work on the marriage.

She said she would only consider reconciliation under strict conditions: open access both ways, him deleting Tinder, giving her his phone passcode, and starting personal therapy along with couples counseling. He pushed back on the phone access and therapy, saying he deserved privacy. "You deserve your privacy?" she asked, according to his post. He insisted there was nothing wrong with wanting to be sure.

In the final update, therapy made the break even clearer. He said he admitted he was an unfair hypocrite. She said she was happier without him and that her trust was broken. They tried one more session, but she canceled it and filed for divorce.

After that, they moved on to visitation and long-distance co-parenting. She planned to move to her home state in January for better pay, better benefits, and on-site daycare. They agreed on child support, splitting the baby's expenses, and putting everything in writing. He paid her the amnio cost.

Then came the question that remained: "I know there's no chance of getting my wife back now, but how can I be a good dad to Baby long distance?"