ROOM FOR GRIEF

A grieving girlfriend asked for the apartment. She wanted it empty for a week.

The poster says the request came right after the girlfriend lost someone close to her. In the middle of that grief, she asked whether they would be willing to leave so she could be alone. "I'd be willing leave the apartment so she can alone for the week," the poster wrote, summing up the ask plainly.

The answer was no.

The poster said they told her, "sorry I can't because I have no where to go." Their family lives too far away, their friends "don't really have the space" for them, and a hotel for seven days was out of the question. "I don't want to spend the money to stay at a hotel for a week," they wrote.

That refusal landed badly. The girlfriend was upset and said the poster was "making things worse." From there, the situation turned into a tug-of-war over what support should look like during grief and who should bear the cost of it.

The poster says their friends weighed in too, but not in any helpful way. They told the poster they need to "give her space," yet none of them offered a couch, a spare room, or help with a hotel bill. The advice was clear. The backup plan was not.

In an edit, the poster added another layer to the money issue: their girlfriend is not as frugal as they are and thinks "paying for a hotel for a week is no big deal." The poster says they did ask her to help pay, but her money is going toward funeral costs.

So the standoff stayed exactly where it began. The girlfriend wanted the apartment to herself while she grieved. The poster said they had nowhere else to go and could not afford a week away. Friends said to give her space, but did not offer any space of their own. And with funeral expenses already draining the girlfriend's budget, the hotel option remained off the table.

By the end of the post, the conflict was not about whether the girlfriend needed space. It was about who was supposed to pay for it, and where the poster was supposed to live if they did.